These are the 3 things I really now about my husband’s Alzheimer’s.

I didn’t cause Alzheimer’s

Alzheimer’s is a brain disease. He’s not forgetting things on purpose. Doctors do not know what causes the disease. I need to really understand that I did not cause it.

I can’t cure it,

It can’t be cured or stopped by doing more crossword puzzles or by eating less red meat or sugar, or by staying out of the sun, or by any other active measures.

I can’t control it

The best I can do is to love him. I can learn to accept him for wherever he is right now. And I need to learn to accept that where he is today is not likely to be where he will be tomorrow.